The Silence of Unconcern Feels like Rejection

In many ways, the silence of unconcern can be more deadly than hate. Think about that for a moment. Have you ever felt ignored? Misunderstood?

Feelings of isolation can lead to avoidance.

Even the best of friends can sometimes become scarce when the other is in need. Sometimes in trying to understand, they become discouraged and walk away.

Left feeling isolated or ignored, the person in need feels anger towards them. They think, ‘how could they walk away from me when I need them most.’

Many times the one playing avoidance is more concerned with themselves than the friend in need. They don’t know what to say, or they don’t know how to help. They listen, they dispense advice, and they try to be there for their friend but then nothing seems to change. They become discouraged in the process and walk away from their “needy” friend. It’s not because they don’t care, most will say they care too much.

The problem is they don’t know how to deal with trials or tribulations. Many have their own issues to deal with it and to take on another’s burden just becomes too much.

The silence of unconcern can be more deadly than hate. Left in the silence by the avoiding friend, the gap deepens. The person in need feels rejected. They feel sadness, some may become depressed.

How can this relationship resolve to become fruitful thus allowing both individuals to grow? Avoidance certainly doesn’t help either party.

The best remedy is to be open with each other. Share your concerns. Tell them you don’t know what to say or how to help. The friend in need can accept that. It will go a long way in maintaining and building a strong relationship.

Avoidance leads to guilt and guilt leads to more avoidance. It becomes a vicious circle. Be open with your feelings and thoughts, encourage one another and don’t let the silence of unconcern deaden the relationship.