Feeling Sorry for yourself while Dealing with the Pain of Rejection

Having a pity party about your circumstances will only keep you down. Think about the direction your life is taking. What you do for yourself today determines your tomorrow.

Don’t just spend time with God when you’re feeling desperate. Spend time with God every day so when the desperation enters you will be equipped to handle it.

Everyone will experience a time in their life when opportunities are missed. Feelings of rejection and isolation will occur. People are not perfect. They make mistakes, they make bad choices. Certain relationships will be challenging. Those who drag you down will keep you down, if you let them. Choose the right people in your life.

Sometimes there’ll be disappointing circumstances in life. Perhaps you didn’t get that job you wanted. Maybe you lost your job during the recession. Rejection is difficult. Emotions run high.

When Jesus sent the disciples out to preach he said, if people reject you, shake the dust off your feet and go on to the next town.  Move on. God can use the difficult situations in your life to do some good in you and others around you.

Many people are hurting in this world. That doesn’t discount the pain. Living in moments of despair seems to drown out possibilities of a bright future. When a person is filled with discouragement and rejection, they withdraw. Satan will use that pain of rejection to try and disrupt your life. He will mislead you. He will add to your worries by causing you to doubt God’s wonderful providence He has planned for your life.

Turn your fears over to God. Let Him fight your battles. When you find the courage to be who you are in Christ, you will have foresight.  By envisioning your purpose in life, you are acknowledging God’s plan. Keep your focus on God and not on your circumstances. Let the Holy Spirit calm your fears. Turn your battles over to God. Lay them at the foot of the cross. Those battles don’t belong to you anyway. They belong to God, for there is a real spiritual warfare in this world.

Let your thoughts be on the One who can accomplish all things. For it is your purpose to love Him and serve Him.  Ask God to show you what to do. Ask Him to take the reins of your life.

Dale Carnegie once said, “Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have.”

Why? Because it limits your possibilities, it reduces your ability to learn from the situation.

C.S. Lewis has many books on Christianity. His medieval literature is still popular today. In his book, “Mere Christianity”, Lewis said, “Imagine yourself as a living house. God comes in to rebuild that house.

Lewis explains at first you understand what He’s doing. He is fixing your house, getting it in order, and making those necessary repairs.

Then “He starts knocking the house about in a way that hurts abominably and does not seem to make sense,” Lewis reminds us that God is building our house totally different than what we expected.

“What on earth is He up to?” Lewis writes, “He’s making courtyards and you thought you were going to be made into a decent little cottage: but He’s building you a palace.”

This is God’s intention for your life, to rebuild you. He intends to come and live in your house Himself.