Dealing with Complainers, Whiners, and Debbie-Downers

Why is it that some people are always downers? They find something to complain about and they are never happy. If they get a cold, they want everyone to feel sorry for them. If they have a rough day at work, everyone knows about it. I don’t understand. What makes a person like that?

There are plenty of people going through a rough patch right now. Many are out of work and are barely getting by. I don’t hear a lot of complaints from some of these folks. There are people around the country who have cancer and they are making the most of our their lives. Those individuals who are dealing with long-term illnesses don’t want to be pitied. So why is it that others live in a constant state of a ‘oh poor me’ mentality?

I’ve had my share of ups and downs in life. I accept these things that happen. Things that are out of my control, like losing a job or getting in a car accident. Even facing a life-long illness, I’ve had my share to complain about and I’m not perfect. I have griped and complained to my family when I struggled. I realize it’s not a pretty sight. Yet in the face of those situations, I came to know my faith was being tested. I find myself getting on my knees in prayer and asking God to get me through whatever I’m facing. I can not stay in a constant state of pity-parties. And still there are some who do!

Perhaps they lack faith? I don’t know why. I’m finding myself anxious when I have to be around someone like that. I don’t want to be mean but I almost want to tell them to grow up, be an adult. Is that asking too much?

All I can do in this situation is to pray for that person. That is the best I can do. When I’m listening to them gripe, I’ll keep my mouth shut and quietly pray. I don’t know why they bother me so much, perhaps I need to ask God for patience?